Why do we hate people?

Man has been known to hate people, books, foods, castes, races, religions and even stations. Almost anything under the sky has the potential to create hatred in a human being. It is important to understand hatred because I believe that this emotion is a cause of much suffering inflicted upon mankind. This is primarily because leaders try to leverage this emotion to the maximum effect. And when I say leaders I mean political as well as “religious” leaders.

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But what is hatred?

I think hatred is both a trigger and a fertile breeding ground for the coexistence of myriad negative emotions like anger, envy, gloom, fear, disrespect etc.

If we hate an entity, mere sight or even mention of that entity can instantly create all the above emotions. To what extent and how quickly these emotions are evoked may depend on the intensity of hatred.

Try to remember something which you hatehate a lot. For some time, think about it single-mindedly. It’s highly probable that within a few minutes you would be filled with some of the above emotions.

(My own experience of hatred although is limited to hating some screen and fictional characters on TV which I think happens because these characters are comprehensively negative which is extremely rare in real life.)

What I am trying to propose is that if hate can create these emotions almost instantly, then a sustained presence of any of these emotions for someone or something over a long period of time can lead to hatred.

On the face of it, hatred is as natural emotion (or a combination of emotions) as love. So there should be nothing that should make us worried. But upon a closer look, I think hatred deserves more attention.

Hatred is a weapon that mankind has long used as a deterrent. Parents try to instil hatred in the kids towards some harmful things or ideas. The message is one must hate “bad” things. A very common statement is “I hate dishonest people”. This statement on one hand condemns dishonesty and on the other glorifies hatred.

Hatred is also a weapon which has been used to perpetrate the most shameful acts in the history of mankind.

Hatred is the most insidious weapon at the disposal of mankind. Although there has been lot of emphasis on preaching to love, I don’t know exactly why but there has been hardly any emphasis on preaching “not to hate”.

This may be because love has been considered to be an antidote to hatred. But I think it is not so. In fact love and hatred can coexist in a human heart: love for someone hatred for someone else.

So we need not only to preach but also teach how not to hate.

In fact to be able to not hate, we need to shield ourselves from an ever functioning hatred mongering machinery. We also need to decode the process of how hatred is spawned.

Hatred is spawned by the method of sustained association with negative emotions.

One negative emotion is anger. If I know taking a stick in front of dog makes it angry, and I repeatedly do this to make it angry, after a few days the dog will start hating the stick.

Another negative emotion is a sense of relative deprivation. If there are two dogs and for a few days one dog is partially fed while other one is well fed in front of the other dog, it is highly likely that the underfed dog starts hating the well fed one.

Although hatred might be considered as an exclusively human trait, I am using the examples of animals just to make a point and also because we don’t expect animals to use sound logic.

My main contention is that leaders in almost all parts of the world have been spawning hatred to further their various interests.

The hatred being spread might be for a neighbouring state in a country, for a neighbouring nation, for another community, another race and so on. Hatred is a great unifier and serves the interests of the leader better than any other mechanism.

My appeal to the world is that antidote to hatred is not love. Antidote to hatred is strong logic and sound reasoning. By sound reasoning, I mean challenging the logical validity of associations and exposing the infirmity of the emotional appeal of the hatred mongering arguments.

Let us use the information technology and telecommunication to spread sound reasoning which exposes the hatred mongering.

I acknowledge the fact that even after such an attempt, it will be the choice of the individuals to be either pervious or impervious to sound reason.

Still let us make a beginning.

Thanks for your time. Your feedback is extremely valuable.

8 responses to “Why do we hate people?”

  1. This is quite sad actually because as Nelson Mandela says, one is not born with racism and no one is born with hatred. Perhaps the emotions that one feels when faced with a bad situation, emotions like anger and bitterness, when strongly practiced they ultimately become hate. Either way, a very good post and true that we give it way too much power.

    1. I agree completely. Thanks for the kind words of encouragement.

  2. You mesmerize me each time…. and like each time, I have something to say:
    I agree to whatever you have already said. But I wanted to dig deeper and find out how hatred is born. What I found was… it is a cycle. The negative emotions like anger, envy, gloom, fear, disrespect etc. which are born because of hatred are the very cause of Hatred itself. Just like man cannot get rid rid of the positive emotions, he also can’t get rid of these negative emotions. Understanding this chakra often forms the base f what we call “Moksha”. A life cannot exist in entirety of positive or negative. The law of the universe is that the balance should be restored. A man trying to attain Moksha wants to be at “0” (no positive or no negative).
    I am not trying to go off topic here. Just putting forward a point, that hatred cannot be eliminated unless emotions can be zeroed out.

    1. Thank you so much for the generous words. I agree that hatred cannot be eliminated because it is a natural emotion. But we must guard against being exploited through cultivated hatred. That’s the maximum we can do. 🙂

  3. Sumit Chaddha Avatar
    Sumit Chaddha

    Wow !

  4. mohammad rashid Avatar
    mohammad rashid

    you said very well but in my opinion it is running from our ancestor it comes from misunderstanding from peoples and as you said definitely we can remove from our society but it will be
    very big task but it can be

    slowly 2

    1. Thanks for reading and giving valuable feedback. 🙂

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