Key to Happiness.

The world is after happiness. And we search for it in shopping, partying, clubs, relationships etc. Often every such attempt leaves us with a sense of emptiness and hollowness. Desperation to find happiness or to run away from emptiness, sometimes even leads to addiction to alcohol and drugs.

As long as we seek happiness outside ourselves, we will never find it. For happiness is not rooted in smiles, celebrations, etc. Happiness lies in the accepting the world as it is. The world is as it is because the creator wants it to be exactly like this. I am in the present state because the creator has brought me here with some purpose about which I may not have any clue.  Happiness is rooted in accepting this and then playing our role to the best of our ability.

The sense of losing control is the biggest source of unhappiness and stress. This sense is itself rooted in our desire to control.

I am not against the idea of controlling our efforts. We should try and put in the best possible efforts in the best possible way.

But we cannot completely control the outcome. We cannot control the behaviour of others when we sometimes fail to control even our own. We cannot control what people say about us. We cannot make them to be thankful to all the good that we have done to them.

But we do desire to control and also earnestly try to exercise control. Till the time we feel that we are successfully controlling we feel happiness. The moment we get a sense of losing control, we become unhappy. And with a growing sense of loss of control the unhappiness can grow into despair.

Only HE can control. But even He is not a control freak. HE has given us the freedom to choose how we spend our time: in putting in an honest effort or complaining about lack of control.

Let us try to take our mind off the desire to control everything and focus on doing what we can do best at the moment.

Putting an honest effort into what God has given us right now is the biggest reward in itself. And it sure is the key to happiness.

Happiness to all!

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23 thoughts on “Key to Happiness.

  1. We cant be certain that god exists but accepting his existence & control can make us happy.
    Truly! being reward seeking & outcome driven cannot keep us happy always … but being Passion driven makes life fun. Food for thought article Rupesh.

  2. kaustubh tiwari

    “HE” – THE CREATor {lord vishnu} i guess 🙂
    sir a very bitter truth of we humans being presented by you
    applausible
    sir i would like to point that happiness can be achieved by the smiles on the face of our loved ones n by the clebrations n success of the same homo sapiens
    i woul also agree to the proposed fact n would like to quote “THE SHOWMAN OF BOLLYWOOD- MR. RAJ KAPOOR ” THE WORLD IS A STAGE AND WE ALL ARE THE PUPPETS
    EVERY PUPPET PERFORMS HIS PART AT HIS BEST N GETS NOTHING IN REWARD ”
    SO WHY SHOULD we fall for or get in search of getting utmost satisfaction and happiness rather we should perform our part at our level best n then should silently leave the world without claiming for any reward 🙂 as we know we are humans “wants= unlimited, resources to satisfy them = limited”
    instead “we should do our “karma” n “fal” ki apeekshaa nahi karni chahiye”
    sir a well written thought of yours (Y).

      1. kaustubh tiwari

        sir you are an inspiration to me and the same is with this page so no thanks n plz correct me if m wrong in any line

  3. Sumeet

    Well, in complete agreement to the thought of placing Happiness as net net of everything we act for….however still very skeptical on if Happiness really be achieved & sustained by adhering the law of least resistance & detaching I from the results.

    1. Thanks Sumeet for reading and giving valuable inputs. Of course happiness is highly subjective concept and consensus is certainly elusive. but it is good that we agree on at least some points. 🙂

  4. Saurabh Krishna Singh

    I don’t like the idea where someone else is controlling my life, not even god. What gives me happiness is the thought of having the total control of my life in which my own honest efforts result in some achievement, big or small, whatever it is I am totally satisfied with it.

    1. Saurabh, Thanks for reading. It’s good that you have your own idea of happiness. The key word is satisfaction. As long as one is satisfied happiness is definitely around. 🙂

  5. Amit Nigam

    SHAKESPEARE has said in his poem ”MERCY” that the quality of mercy is not strained upon anyone ,it comes like gentle rain from heaven…….I think no feeling can be forced upon anyone …..it comes naturally .we try to get happiness by forcing our body to derive it from materials……BUT finally we fail to do so.

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